Coffee Talk: Being with Mean People

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  • Know to love and trust yourself.
  • Never level yourself with mean people. Do not (in any way) treat them the way they treat you. It is important to keep your standards high because you know better.
  • Avoid answering their calls or even respond to their messages. You don’t need to include yourself in their plans. Do your own thing and have fun.
  • Ignore them if they act mean. Responding to their rude stimuli will boost their ego.
  • If you happen to be with them all day (like in school or work), be casual and act professional. You don’t have to be very obvious in avoiding them. You don’t want to get pulled into some drama with them.
  • Don’t allow the words of other people make you feel low and worthless. As much as possible, detach yourself and be with the people who knows value you as a person.

 

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Coffee Talk: Maintaining Motivation

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1. Make your goals realistic and attainable. There’s no harm in dreaming big for as long as you’re doing your best to make all of them achievable.

2. Learn how to reward yourself. It is more exciting to focus on success especially when you are looking forward to a special treat.

3. Never give up. Failing is normal but what’s important is you focus your mind in renewing your determination. Always expect to have set-backs and to encounter obstacles.

4. Always believe in yourself. Look at the positive side of things so that when you feel discouraged, you have something to hold on to.

5. Seek encouragement. It’s okay to share your goals with other people. (family, friends, colleagues). When you’re finding it hard to keep going, entreat. Your support group will surely back you up.

6. Keep your eyes away from distractions. Learn how to say no even if other options might seem appealing. They might distract you from achieving your goal.

7. Be inspired. Read some inspirational novels, blogs or quotes that will encourage you to work to achieve your goal.

8. Rest. You need to pace yourself if you are going to pursue your goal. Avoid getting burned out or demotivated.

 

Coffee Talk: Fighting Inadequacy

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Inadequacy is the root of low self-esteem. It is all about the standards and expectations we set for ourselves. We’re our worst critics. Other people don’t expect as much of us than we do of ourselves. It’s one big mind game. And to win over this game, I have some tips on how to outsmart yourself out of inadequacy.

  • Believe in yourself. You are your greatest sidekick.
  • Take in all the advice your friends give you. If they are your real friends, they will let you know what they think about you. Don’t set their comments aside. It might help you improve yourself.
  • Know your strengths and embrace them. Take time to develop those traits.
  • Don’t be envious of others can do. Everyone is a unique individual. Do not set aside your own strengths.
  • Open yourself to the difference between suffering and failure. This is how we learn. Never forget that you are only a human being that is prone to committing mistake.
  • Record your improvement and give some credit to yourself. Look back and see your progress. This will be rewarding.

Coffee Talk: Improving Productivity

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  1. Plan your day ahead. Make a to-do list about everything that needs to be done so you won’t end up wasting time throughout the day.
  2. Categorize your tasks from the most important to least important. 
  3. NEVER multi-task.
  4. Ditch unimportant task.
  5. Don’t procrastinate
  6. Cut off the distractions. Checking your phone or social media to name a few.
  7. Know your most productive part of the day and treat it as your most valuable time to get things done.
  8. Set achievable deadlines for yourself.

Coffee Talk: Procrastination

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Procrastination is an act where we delay something until we cram because the deadline is dangerously close to us. Some procrastinators enjoy this rush because somehow beating the deadline gives them a sense of adrenaline to get things done. You now have a body full of energy. Your focus is now undivided. And most of all, you can work for hours without getting tired or drained.

But with aside from the adrenaline rush and focus, WHY DO WE REALLY PROCRASTINATE? What makes us loiter on our responsibilities instead of moving forward to settle things?

Below are some of the few reasons why we procrastinate. (Based from experience)

  • Focused on doing something else and not the given task. 

We are always trying to avoid doing something we don’t want. We find it unpleasant rather than fun. However, delaying the task won’t make it disappear.

  • Dumbfounded by the task at hand. 

We are lost as to what to do, how to do it, why we need to do it and what’s in it for us? Since we are left clueless, we are always tempted not to do it because it is so much easier. We perceive that procrastinating is a quick form of relief.

  • Bad work ethics. 

There are some of us who were considered as bad organizers. We tend to wait for the last minute before starting the task. We always think that we work well under pressure but to be honest, we’re not. We lax because the deadline is still far. We always overlook at the consequences because we don’t want too much work pressure.

 

Coffee Talk: Your Gems at Work

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Below are some tips that you need to heed to achieve career growth. 

  • Sustain yourself but don’t let your passion die. 

Find the balance between being practical and finding your passion. You can pursue your passion while holding down a full-time job that pays the bills. If you have enough money and courage to pursue your passion full-time, trust your gut and take the leap!

  • Exercise Tarzan-mode with caution.

You know how Tarzan swings from one rope to another? You can do this when it comes to your career. It doesn’t hurt to keep your options open, especially when you feel you’ve outgrown or exhausted your current job. But make sure you don’t get derailed from your current responsibilities.

  • Get everything done. 

In whatever job you land, do it with everything you’ve got. A strong work ethic is always attractive to employers and bosses, and something you can cultivate. This will show whether you’re content with stapling paper or driven to write something big.

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Coffee Talk: How to Win Over your Boss

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GO BEYOND WORK

It will be a major leap if you and your boss share the same interests. There are more things that you can talk about other than just work. This is integral in creating trust between you and your boss.  (Don’t over do it. Never pretend you like something same as your boss. Let it come naturally.)

GET THINGS DONE

Being able to deliver what is asked from you and being able to manage your boss’ expectations– those are the things that will keep you in the clear. Doing more that what is required from you is a safe bet for getting on his or her good side. (Don’t over do it. Don’t do something beyond your expertise.)

KEEP IT PROFESSIONAL

Don’t take things personally. There will be times you can get in an argument with your boss because of work but at the end of the day, you have to make sure that when you leave the office, it’s clear to both of you that it is just work and nothing personal. (Don’t over do it. Avoid posting your frustrations about work in your social media accounts. It is between you and your boss. Not everyone should know about this.)