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– I know this may sound stupid, but it is really that simple. This is not a test. It is not some riddle for you to to figure out. Just believe them. There is no hidden meaning.


–  Do not take it personally. Do not pout. Do not think that in any way it means that they don’t care about you.


–  Hear them. Take time to listen to them. Appreciate their honesty and understand their own personal struggle.




Until next time,



Believing in yourself

I can’t imagine myself being so concerned about other people’s opinions, that I would rather self sabotage and allow opportunities to slip through my fingers, just to avoid the negative things people might say.

If you’re blessed with a opportunity, grab it with both hands! The same people who dislike you would embrace the same blessings that they’re ridiculing you for having.

Don’t get distracted by those who have nothing going for them. Wish them peace and guidance and keep it moving my g. People are always going to talk.





I saw two beautiful children holding hands today, an older sister and her little brother. He fell over and scraped his knee and started crying and the older sister gave him a hug. Immediately after, he stopped crying and said it felt better and they literally held hands again and caught up with their mum.
Definitely not trying to be fake deep here but listen, what if a hug has the power to really start the healing process for people. We need to start hugging each other more often. We need to create a society where it’s okay to hug people who look hurt or request a hug from someone because we’re feeling a lack of human contact and care. A simple hug can change so much.

Eyes on the Goal

A quarter of the year is already over. Have one fruitful year to remember by accomplishing the goal you’ve set yourself. Here are some ways to help you stay on target and keep the goals you’ve made right on the dot.



Start with a short-term objectives or have “mini pledges” that lead up to your ultimate goal.


Don’t expect flawless execution. Things won’t always go according to plan, but the most important thing is to learn from your mistakes and continue to work hard.


Believe in the power of positivity. Ward off naysayers. Maintain a composed and inspired attitude that’s ready to chase after biggest dreams one can imagine.




Chris Paolo,

We met during one of the darkest moments in my life. I was sick, alone and a total mess. You found me sitting inside a bookstore trying to figure out what I’m going to do with my life. I looked confused and shattered at the same time. But despite my dysfunctional persona, you approached me just to say “hi”!. You have the most sincere and warmest smile I’ve seen for a while. It was totally unexpected. However, it managed to open a new chapter in my life – A chapter in which you will be the reason why I learned how to get back on my feet. A chapter which I decided to call, BLISS.

As I go through this new journey, I would like to thank you for your patience and never ending support. Thank you for helping me to learn how to help myself. Thank you for all the nights you’ve stayed up just to comfort me. I know that no amount of words could ever do you justice and I don’t think I will be able to express it the way I want to. But maybe that’s the magic of it all. I found comfort in knowing that I have something that cannot be even put down perfectly on a paper. I cannot even fathom how amazing you are and how lucky I am to have such an amazing life with you. Thank you for your constant reassurance and for being a great listener. There is no one else I’d rather share every detail of my life with other than you. All of my favorite things become so much more enthralling once shared with you. Your words are gentle enough to stick with me. When I lack motivation to get up some mornings, I think of the way you would encourage me. I think of the way you would kiss my forehead and smile at me and tell me how you’re proud that I am still here. Even during my PMS, you would tell me that what I’m feeling is valid and how you’ll be around no matter what. Those words alone would be more than enough to make all the pessimism fade away. Thank you for loving me enough to allow me to embrace my independence yet love you more than anything at the same time. Despite the distance, you have impacted my life in more ways than you’ll ever imagine and I am endlessly grateful. I have learned so much from you in what seems like such a short period of time and I’m so eager to continue. Sometimes I struggle with Writer’s block but you’re always right there to inspire me and get me back on my feet. Thank you for being you. I am so lucky to love you and have the opportunity to grow with you. There’s not a day that goes by where I don’t recognize all the wonders that you are. I cannot wait for everything life has in store for us. Happy Anniversary, bubbi. I love you.


Things I learned from Falling in Love


  • Learn when to walk away.
  • Some people have to be loved from a distance.
  • Give your loved ones space to grow.
  • Pay attention to your feelings. Your body gives you signals and your intuition knows best.
  • If you feel better when someone isn’t around then they need to stay gone.
  • Never be someone’s emotional, verbal, or physical punching bag.
  • When you start to love yourself more, you’ll stop putting up with so much crap from others.
  • Knowing someone for a long time does not mean you have to stick around when the environment is toxic.
  • Get to know people before you jump to conclusions about their character.
  • stop confusing love with lust and infatuation.
  • Love is unconditional. It feels free. It let’s you breathe. It helps you grow.
  • If someone loves you, you will know it. You won’t have to question it. It will read in their actions and their words.


/Some of the small things in life that matter.


  • speak up.
  • stop settling.
  • giving is beautiful but don’t let yourself be taken advantage of.
  • be picky about the compromises and sacrifices you make for others.
  • you deserve good things.
  • you deserve reciprocation.
  • everyone you surround yourself with should make you feel good on all levels.
  • you are not asking for too much.
  • your feelings matter.
  • people can’t help you if you pretend to be okay all the time.