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10 Most Important Life Lessons I’ve Learned While In My 20s

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  1. Goals take time to complete. You’re not supposed to accomplish everything in an instant. What you do and what you want to do can fall into place when the timing is perfect. Time is your best asset.
  2. You don’t really know what you’re doing. Just have fun and never be afraid to fail. Life is about learning through experience. Fail often. Learn something new everyday. Be a good loser and then be a good winner. Then apply what your learned.
  3. Look people in the eye. It is essential to have the ability to give eye contact to someone as they speak. People nowadays tend to break their gaze during a conversation because of their phones. Giving someone a complete and undivided attention can make them feel important and respected.
  4. Sometimes it’s okay to give people second chances but not third. Sometimes second chances teach us that sometimes we can misjudge others. Our mistaken judgments occur when we are blinded by other’s flaws. However, a giving third chance for the same reason is often unacceptable. A person might have been complacent in doing something wrong because they have the idea of you forgiving them.
  5. Stay away from toxic people. Toxic people can sometimes sabotage your goal to self-improvement. Detach yourself with them and be with the people who values you as a person. It is a process but it can be done.
  6. Stay humble and kind. It is rewarding to stay grounded and surpassing someone’s ego. Although confidence is essential, humility and kindness is of the same importance. Remain true to your roots and of course, to yourself.
  7. Keep secrets. Life is more interesting when there’s mystery involved. You can’t just have an open book kind of life where anyone can know anything about you. Sometimes things must be kept to ourselves in order to have the sense of privacy and individuality.
  8. If you’re wrong, say sorry. Admitting that you committed a mistake is a kind of bravery that leads to self improvement. Apologizing validates the other person’s feelings and acknowledging the flaw you made or your role in a certain issue.
  9. Laugh. Aside from the medical benefits of laughing, one of the main reasons why I encourage people to laugh is for the simple reason of making them happy. Happiness suggests a deep importance to everyone. It helps us get by when things get rough. It is also a form of a universal communication that binds people everywhere.
  10. Always pray and be grateful. When things get rough, pray. When things are good, pray even more. We are blessed to witness everyday with open arms. It is essential that we express gratitude for all the answered prayers we received. It only takes few minutes of our time but the impact is huge and rewarding.

 

Until next time,

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Managing Negative Feelings

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  • Figure outwhat’s causing you to feel down.
  • Talk to someone whom you think will understand.
  • Learn to accept and understand the feeling that you have. This feeling can’t be considered right or wrong. It’s simply how you feel right now.
  • As much as possible, express your feelings in a safe, non-threatening way.
  • Related to this, think of ways to manage them effectively so that you don’t feel quite so bad, and so completely overwhelmed.
  • Avoid being with people who demand too much from you. Especially those who drain you emotionally. Being with them is not healthy.

 

Always shine,

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Believing in yourself

I can’t imagine myself being so concerned about other people’s opinions, that I would rather self sabotage and allow opportunities to slip through my fingers, just to avoid the negative things people might say.

If you’re blessed with a opportunity, grab it with both hands! The same people who dislike you would embrace the same blessings that they’re ridiculing you for having.

Don’t get distracted by those who have nothing going for them. Wish them peace and guidance and keep it moving my g. People are always going to talk.

 

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Career Decisions

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Some of the hardest decisions you will ever make are related to your job.

Should you quit? Should you stay and see what happens? Take a job that requires relocation? Stick to your area when searching for an opportunity?

The questions never seem to end. And I’m at a point where I have to ask myself do I want to wait and see how things play out or take it upon myself to seek an opportunity that can accommodate my career needs.

One thing that makes this decision very difficult is I’ve only been at my job for almost a year. Yeah, I know that is a very short period of time but at this point it’s hard for me to see this position moving in the direction I want it to. Also, I am finding out more about the kinds of jobs I want to take on and the kinds I would want to avoid.

Obviously this decision can’t be made at the spur of the moment but it’s something to take into serious consideration because the worst thing I can do is sit around and waste my time.

Relationship Goals

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They say the longer you are in a relationship with someone, the more you start to look like each other. More than physically, it probably has something to do with picking up each other’s mannerism and quirks, creating a vibe that’s uniquely the two of you.

More than grand gestures and Instagram-ready moments, what does it really take to make a relationship work?

  • Love starts by getting over bad impression.

Accepting your partner for who they are and who they are not will take your relationship to the next level. Love is about embracing the flaws and not letting it ruin your relationship. No one will ever be perfect so use those imperfections to make room for growth.

  • Love means being true to yourself and your family.

Love is not always about romance. It is also about trust and acceptance. You should always stay true to yourself in order for you to stay true to everyone. Good or bad, no secrets should be left untold. You don’t have to pretend to be someone you’re not just to impress the person you love. Be your own self. You are special.

  • Love equals less games, more communication and honesty.

Being in a relationship is a 100% commitment. If you think you’re not ready for it then don’t be in a rush. Instead of fighting over something talk about it. A relationship powered by two matured individuals will make things easier. Be open to your partner’s feelings. Learn to listen. Sit down, be calm and be true to what you feel. Don’t pretend that something is fine even if it’s not. Relationship is a work in progress. You should help each other in order to make it stable. It’s not easy but it is definitely rewarding.

  • Love means sharing each other’s interests and values.

A commitment is not a one-sided love affair. It also revolves on engaging your partner to the things that you love. This doesn’t have to be grand. A simple gesture of sharing your favorite movie is a start. Remember, you were born apart, so you definitely have a lot to share with each other.