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10 Most Important Life Lessons I’ve Learned While In My 20s

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  1. Goals take time to complete. You’re not supposed to accomplish everything in an instant. What you do and what you want to do can fall into place when the timing is perfect. Time is your best asset.
  2. You don’t really know what you’re doing. Just have fun and never be afraid to fail. Life is about learning through experience. Fail often. Learn something new everyday. Be a good loser and then be a good winner. Then apply what your learned.
  3. Look people in the eye. It is essential to have the ability to give eye contact to someone as they speak. People nowadays tend to break their gaze during a conversation because of their phones. Giving someone a complete and undivided attention can make them feel important and respected.
  4. Sometimes it’s okay to give people second chances but not third. Sometimes second chances teach us that sometimes we can misjudge others. Our mistaken judgments occur when we are blinded by other’s flaws. However, a giving third chance for the same reason is often unacceptable. A person might have been complacent in doing something wrong because they have the idea of you forgiving them.
  5. Stay away from toxic people. Toxic people can sometimes sabotage your goal to self-improvement. Detach yourself with them and be with the people who values you as a person. It is a process but it can be done.
  6. Stay humble and kind. It is rewarding to stay grounded and surpassing someone’s ego. Although confidence is essential, humility and kindness is of the same importance. Remain true to your roots and of course, to yourself.
  7. Keep secrets. Life is more interesting when there’s mystery involved. You can’t just have an open book kind of life where anyone can know anything about you. Sometimes things must be kept to ourselves in order to have the sense of privacy and individuality.
  8. If you’re wrong, say sorry. Admitting that you committed a mistake is a kind of bravery that leads to self improvement. Apologizing validates the other person’s feelings and acknowledging the flaw you made or your role in a certain issue.
  9. Laugh. Aside from the medical benefits of laughing, one of the main reasons why I encourage people to laugh is for the simple reason of making them happy. Happiness suggests a deep importance to everyone. It helps us get by when things get rough. It is also a form of a universal communication that binds people everywhere.
  10. Always pray and be grateful. When things get rough, pray. When things are good, pray even more. We are blessed to witness everyday with open arms. It is essential that we express gratitude for all the answered prayers we received. It only takes few minutes of our time but the impact is huge and rewarding.

 

Until next time,

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Things I Do Before Bedtime

I always look forward to bedtime. Everyone does. Right? And to be honest, after a long day at work, sleeping is the best remedy for my tired body. I sleep during the day since my shift starts at midnight. It’s not that easy you know. Scorching heat. Too much light. 5 hours straight of undisturbed sleep is rewarding.

 

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Take a shower:  I am taking the public transportation to and from work. It is obviously cheaper plus not much prone to Manila traffic. However, riding an open air jeep or tricycle can expose you to dust and dirt. So after I got home, I rest for 5 minutes while getting ready to hit the showers. I remove my makeup, have a quick bath and rinse. Refreshing.

Connect with loved ones: Since I’ve been living far from my family, I always make it a point that I talk to them whenever I have my free time. I send them sms or talk to them through Facebook. Also, a short video call always make a huge difference. The sadness of being alone subsides.

Check all my social media: Before hitting the sack, I try to check my social media for any updates, doggy videos and other cool and random stuff. I also visit Youtube to check if there are new videos from my subscriptions. I love BubzBeauty, ItsJudysLife and other Filipina Youtubers.

Plug-in my ASMR videos: I am sleeping during the day so I find it hard to catch my zzzz easily. One of the hacks I discovered for myself is that I am a slave for ASMR. Autonomous sensory meridian response (ASMR) is a term used to describe an experience brought by unusual tingling sensation from ordinary objects. It usually starts with the scalp, then neck and upper spine. I find the experience very satisfying.

Be Thankful: Before you close your eyes, take a minute to say a prayer of gratitude. Thank the Lord for all the blessings you have received for that day. Remember all the good and the bad and what you learned from it. The ultimate reward out of everyday is the fact that you’ve survived another life with your loved ones. Such a huge blessing.

What’s your bedtime routine?

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AUGUST GOALS

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It’s been 8 months since we started 2017. Many things have changed by now. And even though I am not really a fan of this month, I am very much excited to share with you my goals in high hopes that I will accomplish everything until the 31st.

  • Visit my sister in Lucena for at least 2 days.
  • Explore Baguio more. (Try Yes Pho and Unlimited Samgyeopsal)
  • Read 2 books.
  • Create a very sensible Spotify Playlist.
  • Write blog articles scheduled until next month.
  • Try intermittent fasting recommended by Doc Thea.
  • Watch Bates’ Motel or Breaking Bad.
  • See at least one movie from the theaters.

I am looking forward in accomplishing these goals. What do you want to accomplish? Let me know.

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Managing Negative Feelings

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  • Figure outwhat’s causing you to feel down.
  • Talk to someone whom you think will understand.
  • Learn to accept and understand the feeling that you have. This feeling can’t be considered right or wrong. It’s simply how you feel right now.
  • As much as possible, express your feelings in a safe, non-threatening way.
  • Related to this, think of ways to manage them effectively so that you don’t feel quite so bad, and so completely overwhelmed.
  • Avoid being with people who demand too much from you. Especially those who drain you emotionally. Being with them is not healthy.

 

Always shine,

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Appreciating Body Image

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  • Surround yourself with positive people.
  • Do FOCUS on the things you LIKE about YOURSELF.
  • Remind yourself that beauty is a state of mind, not a state of your body.
  • You don’t need validation from anyone else to feel good about yourself.
  • Appreciate all that your body can do.
  • Wear comfortable clothes that will make you feel good about your body.
  • Nobody is perfect. So embrace the fact that you are flawed and love the things that make you unique.
  • Understand that the things we see on print and television have been altered to perfection. Everything is NOT as it seems.
  • Shut down those voices in your head that tell you your body is not right or that you are a bad person.

 

Love always,

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Leaving Home.

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How do u cope when you have to leave behind everything you’ve known? How will you find the courage to call a new city or country home?

It’s often said that you can probably find a Filipino in every country in the world.
It’s no longer unusual to hear that one of your friends is going to a different country, that your neighbor will leave to settle in another town or you family will move abroad and that you can stay with them when you pay the country a visit someday.

As more and more Filipinos leave their homeland, the reasons for doing so progressively varied as well. Some migrate in search of a greener pasture, some go solo for a high – paying job, others leave to take further studies and still other go in pursuit of a global adventure.

IT IS ALL ABOUT BALANCE. Yes, it’s possible to love where you are without loving where you’re from any less.

1. DISCOVER YOUR OWN HAPPY PLACE.

As soon as you leave you’ll likely be missing a lot of things from home. These are the good old favorites that give you comfort: people, places, food and experience. It is not wrong to miss all these associations but be careful not to devote all of you time and energy into everything you’ve left behind. Try to discover new people, places, things, experiences and food every week.

2.  KEEP IN TOUCH AND DON’T BURN BRIDGES.

Just because you’re physically far from close friends and family doesn’t mean you have to be emotionally distant as well. Yes, they will change, and you will eventually change too. Instead of assuming that you won’t understand each other because of your different experiences and commitments, assume that at the end of the day, you can if you want to.

3. INTEGRATE.

Find groups that pique your interest or volunteer for community events. There are great ways to get to know your new home better, not to mention an excellent way to make new friends. Time flies when you’re having fun, and you’ll feel at home in no time.

Hope this helps.

 

Until next time,

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WanderWoman: Hanoi, Vietnam

 

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Okay, I have to admit. I spent most of my days in Hanoi wandering around cities to cities. Exploring sites, food-hopping from hawkers to hawkers, connecting with people and enjoying the place as it is. During my early days in Hanoi, I stayed in a place called Phúc Yên. It is a small a town in Vĩnh Phúc province that is very close to the Nội Bài airport.

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My departure from NAIA 3 was at 8:00 pm, but due to flight delay, I arrived at Nội Bài airport at half past 2:00 am. I know that Vietnam has a free-Visa pass for Filipinos for 21 days, but since I planned to stay longer, I was required to get a Visa before entering the country.

After getting a well-deserved rest the later that same day, I immediately packed my bags to meet – up with my friend Joy in Hoàn Kiếm. We planned to enjoy the rest of our stay there because it’s the heart of Hanoi and most of the places we want to visit are around the area. The trip from Phúc Yên to Hoàn Kiếm took me about 2 hours via Expressway. As soon as I reached Hanoi Rose Hotel, I settled in and rest for a bit before taking a tour outside.

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We started the day strolling at Hoàn Kiếm Lake. Since the place is in the historical part of Hanoi, why not begin in one of the most scenic spots in the city. The entrance fee cost me about 20K VN Dong or 46php. It was once said that the lake was inhabited by a big turtle bringing safety to the city and prosperity to the people. Although we planned to see different places that day, Joy and I decided to go back to the hotel because I was too tired and not fully recovered from the trips I made for the past 2 days. Here’s a glimpse of our room at Hanoi Rose Hotel.

The room has two beds, one plasma screen TV with cable, fully air-conditioned, has a clean bathroom and WiFi accessible. Also there are drawers and cabinets perfect for our clothes. The room was clean and it smelled really nice. The following morning, there was a complimentary breakfast given to us. Even though I wish there was rice, the free meal was such a delight.

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My first few days in Vietnam went well and I am excited to share more of my experiences on my next WanderWoman blog. Let us talk about streetfood, shopping and public transportation.

 

Until next time,

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