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10 Most Important Life Lessons I’ve Learned While In My 20s

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  1. Goals take time to complete. You’re not supposed to accomplish everything in an instant. What you do and what you want to do can fall into place when the timing is perfect. Time is your best asset.
  2. You don’t really know what you’re doing. Just have fun and never be afraid to fail. Life is about learning through experience. Fail often. Learn something new everyday. Be a good loser and then be a good winner. Then apply what your learned.
  3. Look people in the eye. It is essential to have the ability to give eye contact to someone as they speak. People nowadays tend to break their gaze during a conversation because of their phones. Giving someone a complete and undivided attention can make them feel important and respected.
  4. Sometimes it’s okay to give people second chances but not third. Sometimes second chances teach us that sometimes we can misjudge others. Our mistaken judgments occur when we are blinded by other’s flaws. However, a giving third chance for the same reason is often unacceptable. A person might have been complacent in doing something wrong because they have the idea of you forgiving them.
  5. Stay away from toxic people. Toxic people can sometimes sabotage your goal to self-improvement. Detach yourself with them and be with the people who values you as a person. It is a process but it can be done.
  6. Stay humble and kind. It is rewarding to stay grounded and surpassing someone’s ego. Although confidence is essential, humility and kindness is of the same importance. Remain true to your roots and of course, to yourself.
  7. Keep secrets. Life is more interesting when there’s mystery involved. You can’t just have an open book kind of life where anyone can know anything about you. Sometimes things must be kept to ourselves in order to have the sense of privacy and individuality.
  8. If you’re wrong, say sorry. Admitting that you committed a mistake is a kind of bravery that leads to self improvement. Apologizing validates the other person’s feelings and acknowledging the flaw you made or your role in a certain issue.
  9. Laugh. Aside from the medical benefits of laughing, one of the main reasons why I encourage people to laugh is for the simple reason of making them happy. Happiness suggests a deep importance to everyone. It helps us get by when things get rough. It is also a form of a universal communication that binds people everywhere.
  10. Always pray and be grateful. When things get rough, pray. When things are good, pray even more. We are blessed to witness everyday with open arms. It is essential that we express gratitude for all the answered prayers we received. It only takes few minutes of our time but the impact is huge and rewarding.

 

Until next time,

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Things I Do Before Bedtime

I always look forward to bedtime. Everyone does. Right? And to be honest, after a long day at work, sleeping is the best remedy for my tired body. I sleep during the day since my shift starts at midnight. It’s not that easy you know. Scorching heat. Too much light. 5 hours straight of undisturbed sleep is rewarding.

 

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Take a shower:  I am taking the public transportation to and from work. It is obviously cheaper plus not much prone to Manila traffic. However, riding an open air jeep or tricycle can expose you to dust and dirt. So after I got home, I rest for 5 minutes while getting ready to hit the showers. I remove my makeup, have a quick bath and rinse. Refreshing.

Connect with loved ones: Since I’ve been living far from my family, I always make it a point that I talk to them whenever I have my free time. I send them sms or talk to them through Facebook. Also, a short video call always make a huge difference. The sadness of being alone subsides.

Check all my social media: Before hitting the sack, I try to check my social media for any updates, doggy videos and other cool and random stuff. I also visit Youtube to check if there are new videos from my subscriptions. I love BubzBeauty, ItsJudysLife and other Filipina Youtubers.

Plug-in my ASMR videos: I am sleeping during the day so I find it hard to catch my zzzz easily. One of the hacks I discovered for myself is that I am a slave for ASMR. Autonomous sensory meridian response (ASMR) is a term used to describe an experience brought by unusual tingling sensation from ordinary objects. It usually starts with the scalp, then neck and upper spine. I find the experience very satisfying.

Be Thankful: Before you close your eyes, take a minute to say a prayer of gratitude. Thank the Lord for all the blessings you have received for that day. Remember all the good and the bad and what you learned from it. The ultimate reward out of everyday is the fact that you’ve survived another life with your loved ones. Such a huge blessing.

What’s your bedtime routine?

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WanderWoman: Getting around Hanoi

Hello everyone! This is my third WanderWoman post about my Hanoi trip. I am very much excited to show you fragments of Hanoi through local transport. Vietnamese people have several ways to roam around and they’re not just about cabs and buses. Let me show you different ways to explore the country (some in three wheels or less).

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CYCLOS

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Above is a photo of cyclos famous among tourists in Hanoi. It is a three-wheeled vehicle that can carry up to two people. This kind of transportation is endemic in Asian countries like Vietnam. In China, they call this rickshaw. Unlike the typical bicycle with sidecar, the cyclos have a seat at the front for passengers and the driver at the back.

XE OM

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Xe om (say ohm) is known as motorbike taxi in Vietnam. But what I like about it more is the real translation of the word which means “motorbike hug”. Since Vietnam is filled with two-wheeled vehicles, it is expected that local transport like xe om are used by tourists for sightseeing. Even though xe om is faster and more affordable majority still prefer cabs not just for the safe option for transportation but because English speaking driver can be a great guide as well.

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CITY BUSES

Buses are currently the only means of public transportation around Hanoi. Each buses have different numbers that corresponds to different towns and bus stops. Although few travelers deal with buses to the evident language barrier, I find this convenient, safe and cheaper than xe om.

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Current TV Show Favorites.

Since my work schedule is at night, I seldom find time to catch up on the latest shows here in the Philippines and abroad. I always find myself depending on Netflix and some suggestions from my colleagues. I am not into TV series before, but because of the need to relate with my friends, I was somehow forced to join the realm of binge watchers.

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Riverdale: Back when I was a kid,  I am really into Archie comics. I always make it a point that my dad would buy me a copy so I can read it before going to bed. When I heard about the series, I thought that the plot will be the same as the ones they have on the comics. However, it’s different.  Different but in a way that I love. My attachment for mystery and crime solving shows ignited. The whole season was like an episode of CSI.

13 Reasons Why: I am encouraging everyone to see this. The series mirrored the effects of teenage peer pressure and bullying. This is real and is happening everyday. I know the story is kind of sad and frustrating but at the same time, it educates people on how to handle such situation.

Game of Thrones: The very popular and most talked about HBO show nowadays. I am such an avid fan of this series. Everything is intense and unpredictable. The plot intensifies every season and it made my Monday worth looking forward to. Currently the show is now halfway through the 7th season. Winter is coming.

Lucifer: I know. I know. From the title itself, this series is raising eyebrows everywhere. But don’t get me wrong, the reason why I love this show is the fact that it deals with crime scene investigation. Yes. I guess you know by now how fascinated I am in solving mysteries. I love forensic science and this show hits me.

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AUGUST GOALS

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It’s been 8 months since we started 2017. Many things have changed by now. And even though I am not really a fan of this month, I am very much excited to share with you my goals in high hopes that I will accomplish everything until the 31st.

  • Visit my sister in Lucena for at least 2 days.
  • Explore Baguio more. (Try Yes Pho and Unlimited Samgyeopsal)
  • Read 2 books.
  • Create a very sensible Spotify Playlist.
  • Write blog articles scheduled until next month.
  • Try intermittent fasting recommended by Doc Thea.
  • Watch Bates’ Motel or Breaking Bad.
  • See at least one movie from the theaters.

I am looking forward in accomplishing these goals. What do you want to accomplish? Let me know.

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Managing Negative Feelings

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  • Figure outwhat’s causing you to feel down.
  • Talk to someone whom you think will understand.
  • Learn to accept and understand the feeling that you have. This feeling can’t be considered right or wrong. It’s simply how you feel right now.
  • As much as possible, express your feelings in a safe, non-threatening way.
  • Related to this, think of ways to manage them effectively so that you don’t feel quite so bad, and so completely overwhelmed.
  • Avoid being with people who demand too much from you. Especially those who drain you emotionally. Being with them is not healthy.

 

Always shine,

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Appreciating Body Image

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  • Surround yourself with positive people.
  • Do FOCUS on the things you LIKE about YOURSELF.
  • Remind yourself that beauty is a state of mind, not a state of your body.
  • You don’t need validation from anyone else to feel good about yourself.
  • Appreciate all that your body can do.
  • Wear comfortable clothes that will make you feel good about your body.
  • Nobody is perfect. So embrace the fact that you are flawed and love the things that make you unique.
  • Understand that the things we see on print and television have been altered to perfection. Everything is NOT as it seems.
  • Shut down those voices in your head that tell you your body is not right or that you are a bad person.

 

Love always,

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